Know Your Parenting Style; Positive Parenting Tips & Techniques

Raising kids is the most challenging task of a person's life. The importance of good and positive parenting is an admitted fact and your parenting style directly demonstrates the parenting skills you have. Despite the fact that effective and positive parenting is the goal for you, you often make. There are four styles of parenting styles, first introduced by Psychologist Diana Baumrind ranging from controlling and demanding, to complete freedom; and cold and unresponsive to loving and receptive. Each, authoritative, permissive, authoritarian, and neglectful parents, have their style of dealing with their children. To understand what it means to grow up with parents from each end of the spectrum, we can imagine the lives of four children. 

Authoritarian parents 

If your child becomes obedient and avoids mistakes to get your love. You are an authoritative type of parent. If you never allow your kid to decide for himself or follow his intrinsic interests, as an adult he would never be able to know what he or she really wants. Though he will begin the life that will be seemingly perfect for you or the society but not the life making him happy from the inside. 

If you love your child, but you believe that strict rules are important to make him become well-behaved and fit into society. If your child cries, he's’s told to stop. you never want to discover the cause for it. If your child talks back, he is sent to the corner for a timeout. If your child forgets to take care of his chores around the house, he is not allowed to play with his toys. You have taught your children that suppressing their emotions and following their duties is the way to get through the day. You are controlling and demand obedience without considering the child’s point of view.You need to overview your parenting style. 

Permissive parents

If you are the parents who love your child so much that you believe you should fulfill all his wishes, give him full freedom, and never say “no”. Your child enjoys full control over you and gets whatever he wants. If he doesn’t want to walk, you’ll carry him. If he wants a toy, the toy he gets. If he wants to play games, he’ll be playing them throughout the day   This kind of child grows up completely without borders and strongly believes that whatever he thinks is right. He becomes unable to cope with conflict because he had not learned to control his emotions. The ease of getting everything with a "click" proves a hindrance for him towards success. He'd always got what he wanted, this fact made him a bad loser. As he grows older, with the passage of time, he often acts inconsiderate and doesn’t know his limits. 

 If you are such a kind of parent and think that you are dealing with kids in the style mentioned above, you are surely a permissive type of parent. you are loving, but don’t exert any control. There are no rules. 

Authoritative parents

As, if you parents respect their child's needs, but believe that your kids need freedom within certain limits.  Your child can freely play, but when he’s done, he needs to help tidy up. He is allowed to eat ice cream, but only on Sundays.  His screen-time is limited to 30 minutes a day. You may have conflict, but you listen to what your child has to say and then lay down the rules. However, you don’t give in, nor do you use rewards or punishments. You have taught your child that "Some things are difficult, but I will give you all the support he needs to get through it".  You are an Authoritative type of parent,  who is firm but loving. They encourage independence, within limits.

Your strategy of parenting is helping him develop the strength to endure hardships and to continue following his passions and interests. In class, He is capable of bravely expressing his own opinions in an appropriate manner whether in his class or during breaks, he can show his emotions and act freely or in any place where there the situation demands his expression of opinion. As an adult, he agrees to rules only after they have been discussed and he feels like he understands them.

 Neglecting parents

  If your parenting style is kind of uninterested or uninvolved style of parenting and most of the time you are not present in your children's lives, you are neglecting the type of parents. 

The lack of positive parenting causes your child to often feel completely alone in the world.  Although he experiences full freedom to do anything he wants to and has plenty of imagination, he never receives any, affection, love, feedback, appreciation, or even attention.  Consequently, he will realize that it doesn’t matter what he achieves or loses because no one cares anyway. The lack of attention will lead to a lack of trust in him and others. He will develop a negative image of himself and will be unable to form a healthy relationship in the future. 

( In recent years, parents, who are over-Involved in every aspect of their child’s life,  are often referred to as the 5th style Helicopter' parents ) 

Helicopter' parents 

These parents are also known as ‘snow plows’, If you are removing obstacles out of your kids' path,  you are a type of parents also known as ‘snowplows or 'helicopter' parents, who hover about and micro-manage every aspect of their child's life. Since you won’t let your children do anything alone, the children can’t learn to overcome challenges by themselves.

 Research proves that these children don’t like to solve difficult problems, lack perseverance, and may even procrastinate in protest when something requires a lot of effort.

What is good and positive parenting?

A positive parenting is a tool for for the better results of efforts you put in the raising of kids. You care for your kids,  but you must know that the right strategy at he right time is  a key to success for your goal of their better future.  Here are some tips  and techniques for good and effective parenting. ;

•  Love your kids unconditionally.
• Appreciate your child's good.
• There should be a “balance of demandingness and responsiveness".
•  Boost your child's self-esteem.
• Establish rules for home, be consistent with your discipline and set limits.
• Give your kids your free time, as sufficient as possible.
• Communicate with your kids.
• Make yourself a good role model for them.
• Be flexible and make your parenting style adjustable.